Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Romantic. What is it really? Been watching this (another) love korean series titled "Full House". And do you know I think we actually know and learn the meaning of "being romantic" is ONLY either from movies (and/or books). Yes. Somehow we don't realize that these romantic dramas have brought our mind and understanding to the idea of what romantism is and how does it supoose to work "correctly". Sometimes these feelings of being romantically treated: expensive candle light dinner for two, perfect proposing timing and scene - preferrably with the most beautiful ring and/ or another great gifts... etc, etc), is our view of how our love-life suppose to be, just like in the movies.

I'm thinking.. how long this idea of romantism could actually work in a real life relationship? A year? A couple of years? Forever? Another question I have is, why is this philosophy of romantism in the movie seems only valid in the "approaching/chasing" period (the period before they become couples, or before marriages)? Coz soon after they 'won' the battles, the main characters get together, the movie ends with ".. and they live happily ever after..". It ends. The love story is finished.

What about in our real lives? Our love story can't be chaptered and has an ending, just like in the movies? It goes on like how life goes on. It goes on forever until death. And talking about forever, what about in the marriage life? Is there still the idea of romantism? Will people try to create the romantic scenes for their loved ones? Or everythings as years goes by things become more and more 'un-spiced'... tasteless, ordinary... smooth, same, static... bored.

The big questions is , is a romantism a real thing? Is it a manisfestation of love itself? ... Or is it only our mind's manisfestation of the idea of romantism that we get from the movies? Does our real love life work even without all the romantic settings, just like in the movies? Will you feel as loved/ as special , even without beds of roses , expensive rings, beautiful poems, and perfect sunset scene.. just like in the movies?

Try to generalize all the so called romantic dramas we have watched. I concocted this recipe for a successful romantic drama as:

• One good-looking actor, if you can afford two, that's great. Caution: he must at least look good in suit. Decoration includes the recipe of the "ideal man" in every girl's dream: smart, handsome, suave, charming, intelligent, rich, powerful, loving, loyal and any extra characteristic that you think you can squeeze into your already perfect and unrealistic man.
• One actress who can play the role of innocent, sweet princess, who's always be the centre of every man's attention because of her beauty, that will make the most perfect couple.
  
• A setting where your main actor can drive his expensive car to or pay for the whole restaurant just in case he is going to propose to the main actress five seconds after he meets her.

.. and so on.

Are these all even existed??

* Entry is concluded by writer confusion *

Labels: Love Actually